Is ’90 Day Fiancé’s Vanja Just Unlucky in Love, or Is Something Else Going On?

90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way‘s Vanja quickly won fans with her bubbly personality and obsession with the color pink. But she hasn’t been as lucky in love, as viewers saw her go through not one but two failed romances on her trip to Croatia. Vanja originally went abroad to meet Bozo after talking online for months. But he friend-zoned her only days after she landed, leading to accusations at the tell-all that Bozo had a girlfriend. Vanja chose to make the most of her trip by getting on a dating app, where she connected with Josko. The two had a whirlwind fling in which the single foster dad love-bombed Vanja and got her to break her celibacy.

Vanja’s story ended on a high note, as viewers were left believing she’d found a good one in Josko. But he showed a very different side of himself in the tell-all. Now broken up, Josko made a series of unnecessary comments about their intimate life, accusing Vanja of being boring in bed. Even more shocking, however, was Vanja’s admission that Josko filmed an intimate video of them without her knowledge. He didn’t deny his actions, and though he offered Vanja an apology, it did little to save his character. Josko joins Vanja’s growing list of men who’ve not only disappointed her but treated her horribly. With such a sweet, genuine persona, it’s hard to understand why Vanja has had such unfortunate experiences. But it may be something deeper than just bad luck.

Vanja Has A History Of Choosing Bad Men

Even before 90 Day Fiancé, it seems like Vanja has a bad history with men. She opened the show by recalling her last relationship, which ended when she walked in on her fiancé kissing another woman. The break-up was even more painful since she lost the relationship with her ex’s daughter. Viewers saw the trauma come out when Vanja was hesitant about Josko being a foster dad – she didn’t want to get attached to another child if a break-up was possible.

Vanja hasn’t just had trouble finding a lasting relationship, but she’s also gone through some seriously traumatic experiences. The fact she was celibate for six years speaks volumes, as she was so scared to be vulnerable again. Given how Josko broke her trust when she finally broke her celibacy – what he did was not only traumatizing but illegal in many states – it’s likely deepened her trust issues. So, Vanja probably has a lot to process moving forward.

Vanja Needs A Break From Dating (And TV)

Vanja’s history of choosing men with poor character shouldn’t be overlooked. One would be bad luck, and two may be a coincidence. But three times in a row signals there’s something deeper going on. Vanja may be subconsciously gravitating towards a type of man or ignoring red signs that should tell her to run. Perhaps the examples of relationships she’s had in her life have skewed her perspective, or she subconsciously doesn’t believe she deserves better treatment. It’s not for viewers to speculate what’s going on with Vanja that contributes to her poor taste in men. However, there could be an opportunity for personal reflection and growth, which could put Vanja in a better position to find a lasting, healthy relationship.

Many 90 Day Fiancé breakout stars go on to appear in spin-offs, so Vanja could be eyeing a spot on The Single Life. But given the load she has to work on, it may be wise to take time for herself off-screen. Being on TV adds a layer of pressure and complexity, making finding a genuine relationship more difficult. If finding love is Vanja’s priority, she may be best off seeking professional support and guidance so she can return to the dating game – and potentially reality TV – her best self.

90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way is streaming on Max in the U.S.